MALIKA LATCHMAN, LMHC · PERSPECTIVES ON THERAPY & CULTURE
The things you are already thinking about. Named.
Writing at the intersection of attachment, anxiety, and what it actually costs to be a high-functioning Black woman navigating relationships, family, and yourself.
Secure Attachment Looks Boring.That Is the Point.
A July 2026 piece on secure attachment put it plainly: it looks quiet from the outside. It can even look boring. If you have been chasing the feeling of chemistry your whole dating life, quiet can feel like a problem.
Why You Keep Ending Up in Situationships (It Is Not About Your Standards)
Black women are done with situationships. BLK's 2026 report confirmed it. But wanting more doesn't explain why the pattern keeps repeating, and your nervous system does.